Imagine you’re about to retire. Everything in place, structured the way you’ve planned. Free days ahead. What are your plans? Humorously, there are a few somewhat surprising disparities between the sexes in retirement, too, as you’ll find out.
The retired women, in a new TIAA Voices of Experience 2016 survey of 1,583 retirees, were more likely to take part in many particular types of activities than the retired men, but there were also a few types of things the men were more likely to do in retirement than the women.
The survey found agreement between the genders on one thing about retirement, though: “The busier you are, the happier you’ll be.”
76 percent of retirees engaged in 10 or more activities were “very satisfied” with their retirement vs. 52 percent who engaged in one to four.
But you don’t have to be that busy to be happy in retirement.
Broadly speaking, TIAA found, retired women are more likely than men to be busy caregiving, socializing with friends and family and giving back to the community; the retired men are more likely to be engaged in sports and working. (The caregiving theme for women also showed up in a 2014 survey of retirees by the Society of Actuaries.)
The following activities are ones the retired women surveyed are far more likely to do than the men (and a majority of women do all of them, except for “caring for others”):
- Spending time alone with personal interests such as reading (80 percent of women vs. 70 percent of men)
- Connecting with and spending time with family (80 vs. 67)
- Socializing with friends on a regular basis (75 vs. 52)
- Volunteering and giving back to the community (58 vs. 42)
- Caring for others (43 vs. 26)
The activities that retired men are far more likely to do than women:
- Pursuing favorite sports (38 percent of men vs. 18 percent of women)
- Working full- or part-time (28 vs 19; though only 17 percent of retirees overall said they devote time every week to paid work)
- Staying engaged in aspects of the job/career I enjoy (26 vs. 14)
Interestingly, although retired men were more into sports, retired women were slightly more likely to be “engaging in fitness or more strenuous athletic pursuits” (47 percent of women vs. 44 percent of men). Women take instructor-led classes that are more collaborative than competitive.
Women were also a little more likely than men to be engaged in “creative pursuits” in retirement, such as writing, art and crafts (40 percent of women vs. 35 percent of men). You might be taking painting classes. Maybe there’s a little wine involved. Haha. Only kidding…
Conversely, the retired men were slightly more likely to be teaching or mentoring (24 percent vs. 20 percent) and starting a new career in a field that interests or excites them (but career switching in retirement was uncommon; only 9 percent of male retirees did it vs. 4 percent of females).
Transitioning to Retirement
The men surveyed were also more likely than women to say they found the transition to retirement “easy” (77 percent vs. 69 percent). This echoes a 2015 MassMutual survey, where 70 percent of retired men said they were “extremely” or “quite a bit” relaxed, while 65 percent of women felt that way.
Advice for a More Satisfying Retirement
My advice to pre-retirees, based on the TIAA survey: Start figuring out which activities you’ll be busy doing when you retire. “Many people spend more time planning a one-week vacation than a 20- or 30-year retirement,” said McCabe.
If you’re stumped about potential retirement activities, start thinking of ones you could begin — whether that’s learning an instrument, volunteering, taking a class, making new friends, whatever.
To find new friends, check out Meetup.com, the site “where people create local groups around specific activities or interests and are looking to meet new people.”
What Happens to Couples’ Relationships in Retirement
Oh, one more finding from the TIAA survey that might surprise you: an impressive 95 percent of respondents said their relationship with their spouse or partner either improved or stayed the same in retirement compared to before.
So if you privately worry that you and your husband or wife or partner will get on each other’s nerves in retirement because of too much we time, don’t. Just remember this about the TIAA retirees surveyed: “They didn’t say they did all those activities together,” noted Moslander.